Christians As Family Advocates  
921 Country Club Road - Suite 222
Eugene, Oregon 97401
(541)686-6000
Personal Safety Plan
DO YOU NEED A SAFETY PLAN?

 

  • Does your spouse/partner use violence to make their point or get their way through physical, emotional or verbal abuse?
  • Does he/she isolate you from friends and family?

  • Does he/she refuse to listen to you and to respect your ideas and opinions?

  • Does he/she embarrass you by putting you down or by making jokes at your expense?

  • Does he/she treat you, your children or your pets cruelly?

If you answered "yes" to any of these questions, you may need to make a Safety Plan to protect yourself and your children.

Trust your instincts. You have the right to protect yourself until you are out of danger. It's OK for you to give in to the abuser's demands in order to calm him or her down until you have a better opportunity to leave.

You do NOT deserve to be hurt or threatened.

 

 

 

 
SAFETY PLAN WHEN RAGES OCCUR
SAFETY PLAN HELPERS
SAFETY PLAN FOR LEAVING

"We are afraid it will only get worse."
  • Choose to avoid
    rooms without an easy
    escape.

  • Choose to avoid areas
    where weapons are
    available.

  • Choose your home's
    safest exit in advance.

  • Choose several safe
    places to go.

  • Choose neighbors and
    friends who would help.

  • Choose a code word
    that lets your children
    and     support system
    know you need help.

  • Choose to hide a set of
    keys and emergency
    money.

"We are here for you when you're ready to leave."
  • Choose to talk to trusted friends and family.
  • Choose to get help:
CAFA Support Groups:
(541) 686-6000

Domestic & Sexual Violence Advocacy Center:
484-6103 or
1-800-281-2800

Womenspace:
485-6513 or
1-800-281-2800

Senior & Disabled Services: 687-4038
  • Choose to get this information before you
    need it!
Leaving can be the most dangerous time. Take every precaution to keep you and your children safe.

"We are afraid for your safety."
  • Choose to prepare financially:

    Open a bank account.

    Get a credit card.

    Put aside some money
    in a safe place.

    Identify a job counseling
    and training program that
    can help you prepare for
    and find a job.

    Choose items needed to leave:
    Prescriptions and medications (for you and your children.)

    Money for immediate needs.

    Diary describing the abuse dates, times, witnesses and what happend during the abuse.

    Clothing for you and your children (you might pack a bag in advance and leave it with a friend or neighbor).

    Consider hiding an extra set of keys to the house and car.

  • Choose a safe place to go.
  • Choose a safe plan for transportation.
SAFETY PLAN AFTER LEAVING
SAFETY PLAN FOR YOUR CHILDREN
WHAT TO TAKE WHEN YOU LEAVE

"You deserve to be safe."
  • Choose from the options regarding a restraining order.
  • Choose to make your home safe by using locks, security devices and lights.
  • Choose to inform neighbors and support people about your situation.
  • Choose to inform whomever is necessary to help you stay safe in your workplace.
  • Choose to follow your instincts to stay safe.
  • Choose not to hesitate to call 911 if you're in danger.
  • Choose to plan transportation that takes safety into account.
  • Choose the safest way
    to communicate with your partner, if you need to.

"We are afraid for the safety of your children."
  • Choose to equip your children to be safe.

    Teach them how and when to call 911.

    Teach them how to make a collect call to you and another safe person (if your partner takes them).

    Identify emergency childcare options.

    Inform the children's school and caretakers about the situation.

    Give them a copy of the restraining order.

    Teach your children about "S.A.F.E"
      Stay out of the fight.
      A      sk for help.
      F      ind an adult who will       listen.
      Everyone knows it's not your fault
  • Find a good children's counselor.

Prepare an emergency get away bag. Keep it with a friend, neighbor, family member or other safe person.
  • Driver's License or ID
  • Birth Certificates
  • Social Security Card
  • Welfare or Insurance ID
  • Money / Credit Cards
  • Calling Card
  • Bank / Checkbooks
  • Titles and Deeds
  • Your Protective Order
  • Lease or Rental Agreement
  • Auto Registration and Insurance Papers
  • Medical Records
  • Work Permits / Green Cards
  • Passport / VISA
  • Divorce & Custody Papers
  • House & Car Keys
  • Medicatons & Prescriptions
  • Small Saleable Objects
  • Jewelry
  • Address Book
  • Pictures of You, Children and
    Abuser
  • Overnight Toiletries, Diapers
  • Change of Clothes
  • Small Toys
  • Sentimental Items
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